Support for donor-conceived people
Forums and mailing lists
All the forums and mailing lists happen to be based at Yahoo.
PCVAI is a private forum, only for donor-conceived people. If you are donor conceived and want to feel you are not alone, then please come and join us at PCVAI.
DonorMisconception discusses donor-conception with a slant towards understanding and supporting the rights of donor-conceived people.
How to understand why you feel bad about being donor-conceived
- Family History -- a paper about the importance of biological family ties, by J. David Velleman
- Bill's "Emotional issues of DI adoptees" on PCVAI
I don't recognise myself when I look in the mirror
When I look in the mirror I don't recognise myself. I don't look like any member of my mother's family. Who am I? I don't know. I struggled to understand these feelings for a long time, particularly because we're often told these days 'looks don't matter'. Well looks do matter! It is important to feel you fit somewhere, with people like you.
When I read the following paragraph in an academic report I felt affirmed.
One of the most frequent things thought about by over 80% of people was wondering what their birth relatives looked like, and whether they might look like their birth relative. This need to find and connect with people who might look and behave like you was a surprisingly strong theme throughout much of the research, suggesting the presence of some basic atavistic force.
It is important to feel you are connected to your family by physical features, not just upbringing.
Articles about other donor-conceived people
Starting points for finding your missing parent
This site is US-focused, but has international scope. Donor-conceived people and former "sperm donors" can register on the site. People can make contact with each other if they think they are related. You have to pay a fee to register, but it's a useful resource.
For people conceived in the UK. It is a closed register which makes matches based on DNA testing. It is expensive for donor conceived people to join (about £80) but it is a one off fee and you get tested against every other member of the register.
Along the same lines as the Donor Sibling Registry, but with more individual detail.
A non-profit organization (based in Sweden) for those who were conceived with a sperm donor from a Danish cryobank (Cryos international or Nordic Cryo Bank/European Sperm Bank). They have members from England, Australia, Germany, Sweden, Norway, Denmark and Estonia. (Donors themselves are also welcome to the site)